Who is Happier, a Lotto winner or a Paraplegic?
As per Harvard Psychologist, Dan Gilbert who explains scientific data, after a year lotto winners and paraplegics are equally happy with their lives. Dan Gilbert is the author of the book Stumbling on Happiness.
Toltec wisdom has stated for centuries that experience follows perception, and you have control over how you perceive life. You can either perceive life in a positive way or a negative way. If you perceive a problem as a challenge that will empower you and help you grow, it will do just that - benefit you.
Gilbert discusses how Homo Sapiens possess a Frontal lobe or Prefrontal Cortex. This astonishing aparatus is an experience simulator. Human Sapiens can simulate experience prior to when it happens.
In his labs Gilbert has found that our experience simulator doesn't work as well as it should. He calls this phenomenon, Impact Bias. The experience simulator causes us to accept that disparate outcomes are more different than they really are. Things like winning or losing, gaining or losing a romantic partner, and so on, have far less impact, acuteness and duration than people expect them to have. Gilbert cites a recent study of how major life traumas affect people suggest that, if it happened over three months ago, it has no impact on your happiness. This is also ascertained in Toltec writings such as The Four Agreements.
Gilbert says natural happiness is when we get what we wanted. Synthetic happiness is what you make when you don't acquire what you wanted. Particularly in Western Society we have a basic belief that synthetic happiness is inferior to natural happiness. Gilbert says that our whole economic engine is built on the fact that you must get what you want to be happy, that a shopping mall full of Zen monks isn't going to be profitable because they don't want stuff.
Toltecs recognize that it is all about how you perceive things. A man compliments a woman bout her hair, for example. It makes one woman happy as she perceives what he said as a compliment. Another woman, who grew up with her brothers teasing her about her hair and has an emotional charge about it, will perceive what the man says totally different than the first woman. Due to, what Toltecs refer to as one's inventory, Due to emotional charges from her past being stimulated by the man's words, she will have a negative experience. The experience simulator is not working properly.
From a Toltec or Metaphysical viewpoint, I would go beyond what Gilbert explains in his talk, that what he calls synthetic happiness is actually true happiness as it is not dependent on what happens to us in our lives. What Gilbert calls natural happiness is fleeting as when we don't get what we want, or lose what we had, we are unhappy. It is a powerless type of happiness because we are 100% dependent on our external world.
Knowing this, we can no longer blame people, events or situations outside of us for causing us to be unhappy. Only we can make ourselves happy by using the capabilities we all possess.
Now you know that you have everything you need to be happy inside you. Unless you are a Homo Habilis (an ancient man/woman), and doesn't have a Pre Frontal Cortex, you have everything you need to be happy right within your brain. All you need are the tools to return it to a fine running machine. The Toltec Path provides these tools.
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